Anxiety is not a sign of weakness, it’s a response to stress.
Are you struggling with fertility issues?
– Are you feeling stressed and overwhelmed after receiving an infertility diagnosis?
– Have you been feeling inadequate or questioning your self worth due to your trouble conceiving?
– Is infertility affecting your ability to function in your daily life?
– Have you found yourself disengaging from hobbies, friends, and things you once enjoyed?
It can feel extremely painful and disappointing when your dream of having a child has been disrupted by infertility challenges. Whether you’ve experienced loss or just trouble conceiving, it can be difficult navigating your feelings and thoughts around it.
Experiencing infertility can take you on an emotional roller coaster that you just want to get off of. You’ve finally decided that you’re ready to start or expand your family, you’ve prepared emotionally, mentally, and physically, only to be told that you will face challenges in doing so naturally or you may not be able to do so at all. This news can impact you in ways outside conceiving. As you decide what your next steps are on your journey, you may need support outside of your family and friends. As supportive as they may be It can be overwhelming and hard to explain and get help navigating what you’re feeling and going through.
You’re Not Alone
Infertility means not being able to get pregnant after one year of trying (or six months if a woman is 35 or older). Women who can get pregnant but are unable to stay pregnant may also be infertile. According to research, approximately 10% of women in the United States have difficulty conceiving or sustaining a pregnancy to term and up to 6% of married women have infertility issues. However, being diagnosed as infertile, doesn‘t mean that you can’t have a baby – just that you may need assistance with procedures such as artificial insemination or assisted reproductive technology.
While there are alternatives, that doesn’t mean that your infertility journey will be easy to navigate. If you have a partner, the stress, anxiety, and worry that you all are both feeling can impact your communication with one another. You may be hesitant to tell each other what you are feeling, what steps you want to take, or just how it’s impacting your life in general. You all may have more disagreements as you all discuss and make decision around like:
- What should we do moving forward? (IVF, adoption, surrogacy)
- When should we tell our family?
- How will we come up with the money?
You may even feel disconnected from your relationship as you each begin to isolate from one another as you process everything that’s happened. You may notice that your sex life has become lack luster and the spice is fizzling as the pressures of trying to conceive overwhelm the both of you. It can be hard to focus on the passion and love you have for one another when your ultimate goal is to become pregnant. Sex becomes a chore rather than an act of love.
Fertility challenges can also be hard to deal with when you feel like your loved ones just don’t understand what you’re going through. As you scroll social media and see pregnancy announcements, while you may be happy for them, you also feel disappointed and extremely sad that it’s not you. Feeling this way can make you feel guilty and even a little selfish – you hesitate sharing what you’re feeling with anyone else out of fear of potential judgment or being seen in a negative way. This can leave you feeling very alone, leading to even more feelings of sadness and despair.
Whatever you’re experiencing, it’s important to remember that you’re not alone.
Infertility Therapy Can Help You On Your Journey
Dealing with fertility challenges can be daunting, and we have therapists on the JRACC team who specialize in helping you navigate your emotions, process what is happening, and support you on your journey. Whether you’ve been dealing with infertility for 3 months or 3 years, our team of knowledgeable, optimistic therapists can help you heal.
In our sessions, we will explore everything that has happened, what you’re presently going through and all of your thoughts and emotions around it. When you work with a therapist who understands the ins and outs of infertility it can be easier to open up and be honest about what you’re feeling. You can let down the “strong woman” guard that you may feel you have to put up around your family and friends.
Fertility challenges can lead to emotional trauma. You may be feeling hopeless or like you’re in a rut you can’t get out of, maybe resentful – whatever you’re feeling with the help of our team we can explore the root of these feelings and how you can heal from them. Infertility therapy can help you sort through all of your emotions, help you learn to communicate what you’re feeling to your partner or loved ones, and how to find the strength to move forward, whatever that means for you.
But You May Still Have Questions About Infertility Therapy
I think therapy would be helpful, but I heard it can be expensive.
Well, first it’s important that you think of infertility therapy as an investment. It’s an investment in your mental health and your relationship that can potentially have a positive lasting impact. The good news is, we accept most major insurance and if you don’t have insurance we will work with you to create an affordable plan.
Will you help me choose the best option for me?
While it would probably be easier to have someone tell you exactly what you should do, we’re not here to make those choices for you regarding your relationship or your fertility. We are here to help you figure out what’s best for you by helping you process everything that’s happened and is currently happening, your emotions surrounding it, and support you as you make your decisions.
I haven’t experienced loss, but I’m having trouble conceiving. Is this considered infertility?
The definition of Infertility is not being able to get pregnant after one year of trying (or six months if a woman is 35 or older). So if you’ve been trying to conceive for over a year, it is possible that you are infertile – however we are not doctors, so it’s best to see your OBGYN to get an official diagnosis.
As therapists, we’re here to support you and help you navigate you during this journey.
Do you accept my insurance?
Please contact our office to learn if we accept your insurance.
You Can Get Through Your Fertility Challenges
If you would like to schedule a consultation or discuss any questions or concerns you may have about couples counseling, please don’t hesitate to contact us!
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